Warning Signs That May Signal Your Marriage Has Taken a Turn For the Worst
Posted: Thursday, October 01, 2009
by Brent Parker
The Herbal Remedies Store
Have you been getting the feeling lately that things aren't as perfect in your marriage as they once were? Maybe it seems like there really aren't any problems but at the same time you just aren't feeling the connection you once had or maybe you've noticed subtle changes in your spouses appearance or behavior that has you questioning if everything is really ok.
Here are four signs to watch for to see if there may be a need to make some changes to revitalize your relationship and make it strong again.
Has your partner really let themselves go?
Remember when you would spend quite a bit of time going through your closet looking for just the right thing to wear and then more time in the shower and in front of the mirror? You really wanted to look your best for your special someone.
Well, things change, especially once the honeymoon period is over and it's not unusual to let ourselves go a little. You know, wearing the sweats around the house when we're just relaxing or maybe missing a day or two of shaving now and again but if you or your spouse seems to gone way beyond the normal in regards to making themselves look good for you or their hygiene is sub-par then this may be a sign that they're not really happy and don't care if they appeal to you or not.
Does your spouse avoid important discussions?
Whether they are critical issues or minor issues is a matter of opinion. If they are important to you but your spouse always seems to find a way to avoid having a discussion about it then this may be a sign that they are not interested in working together to find a solution or even worse, they just plain don't care period and their just rolling along with the waves waiting for the boat to finally tip over.
Does your spouse bring up the same issues over and over?
If when trying to have a legitimate discussion with your spouse they continually bring up the same things and want to argue about that instead, that can be another sign of avoidance. It seems that there has already been a break in the communication at this point anyway because there's obviously been no resolution to the previous issue. If you and your spouse are having serious communication problems it may be time to seek professional help if you want to make your marriage work.
Is intimacy infrequent or non-existent?
This is the thing that relationships start out with and build on. It's what joins us as a couple and makes us as one. Declining physical relations is the major clue that your marriage could be heading for disaster yet it is often overlooked and kind of waived off with a number of excuses like... we've been really busy, age is kicking in, tired from work, etc...
If any of the above reminds you in any way of your marriage, you may want to try to initiate a conversation with your spouse about the current state of your marriage and voice your concerns. If they just start bringing up past issues, want to wait and talk during commercials or go into denial then it may be time to ask your partner if they want your marriage to work out and are they willing to do whatever it takes to make that happen and then seek outside help if necessary.
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